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What is Effectiveness Coaching?

I’ve often heard life referred to as a game. Actually, it’s no wonder, since all the great elements of a game are present in the process of life. There are rules to be followed—some dictated by society, some by family, some by religion, some by self, and so on. There is also an objective or goal (or in some cases several goals). There is even competition—sometimes against others and sometimes against the process of life itself. Some parts of the game are played alone and some as a member of a team. There is training required to succeed, as well as a need to have the proper desire and drive to do so. There are, of course, many more similarities that I haven’t touched on, but we must not bypass the fact that most of us want to be winners.

So… if life is like a game and every successful athlete attributes at least part of their success to their coach, why not use one to excel in the game of life? Well, actually, more and more people are working with personal coaches to improve their skills and become winners.

Whether you’re talking sports or life, the following aspects of coaching are pretty much the same:

What Coaching Is…

  • Coaches provide a “side-line” perspective of the game—through your coach, you can gain a greater understanding of the whole picture or greater vision of the playing field and the opposing players. By becoming aware of those aspects of the game that you can’t see while you’re out playing on the field, you can make better decisions about what strategies to use and how to play more effectively.

  • Coaches are leaders and motivators—they are there to empower you with the knowledge and skills required to perform at your highest achievable level.

  • Coaches help players focus on the goal—sometimes they even help players better understand just what the goal is.

  • Coaches sometimes introduce new plays, or remind you to consider those you’ve forgotten about when they would be most effective at getting you ahead.

  • Coaches are team facilitators—they help bring the input of all the team members to each individual player, as needed to best perform their respective duties.

  • Coaches are partners in the game—they want you to win as much as you do, because it makes them winners too!

What Coaching Is Not…

  • Coaches are not doctors—they don’t fix injuries, wounds, or illnesses. Although a good coach has enough training to recognize when a medical professional is needed, they won’t attempt to fix them; rather, they will refer you to someone specifically trained and qualified to perform that type of work.

  • Coaches are not necessarily the best players—though a good coach will still be actively playing on other teams, when it comes to your game, you are the expert. Though a coach may bring experience and expertise to the relationship, when the heat is on, you are the only one who can actually determine how to implement each play of your game—not your coach. Ultimately, you will receive the blame or the credit, depending on whether you fumble or score. Good coaches recognize this and respect you as the expert on your playing field.

  • Coaches are not cheerleaders—although one of their primary jobs is to motivate, don’t expect them to just shout your praises and spout feel-good cheers. Proper motivation requires honest appraisals combined with sound strategies for improving skills and overcoming obstacles.

  • Coaches are not just trainers—although they may teach particular strategies designed to help you win, you, as the player, are expected to already have a basic knowledge of the game and the role you play in it.

  • Coaches are not friends—they shouldn’t have to worry about the consequences of saying it like it is. Your relationship with your coach should be a business relationship based on mutual respect and professional ability. (Despite this fact, coaches can still be friendly and often times are!)

Simply put, coaching can help you gain a better perspective, discover personal motivation, refine focus, learn new strategies, develop greater skills, overcome obstacles, become a winner, and stay on top.

Interpersonal & Professional Effectiveness Coaching specializes in developing superior effectiveness skills—especially those required when working and associating with other team-members. The teams we work with most often are couples and families or business associates. We also provide training to those who fill the role of coaching in families or businesses, so they can understand and perform their stewardship more effectively. Sometimes we help people who have too much to juggle keep an eye on the pieces that are most valuable to them, so they don’t sacrifice things of greater value while trying not to drop things of less importance.

Our simple goal is to help individuals, couples, teams, and executives rise to the top of their potential.


Troy Deitrick
Coach/Consultant/Trainer


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